I have, for some time now, been working out in my own life what many may call; first things first or the cart before the horse.

Truth be told, we all have some type of flavor of this human desire to comport our lives so that we may become who we are created to be. I mean everyone wants that don’t they?

Over the course of these last two decades, I have been deeply interested in this dualistic life where we seem so often to be moving between “Who We Are”, which we we’ll label our BEING and “What We Do”, which we’ll label our DOING. 

This practice of moving betwixt and between we assume is helpful, and while that may at times be true, it will also keep us from our quest. Does that word quest make you think of Medieval times? It does me. Anyway, my point here is that we are in deep need of a conversation around LIFE and how a LIFE that is vibrant and flourishing can be lived. 

To that end, there are a number of differing views, and I would love to in some way be helpful in moderating the truth around these dissimilar ideas about LIFE itself. I believe it all begins with

first things first

You and I, along with all of humanity, have vacillated between the two primary options of living LIFE; Being vs Doing, Who We Are and What We Do. These two words aren’t at odds. They are simpatico. Always have been, always will be.

In my next post, we’ll look at why one must lead the other. And why the other must prove the one.

Hope you’ll keep close with this series of three to four posts. As always, your comments are needed and appreciated.



In the body of an article I read this week in, I came across this;
“We don’t just need better stories we need truer stories.”

A better story could be one which places you or me in a position of superiority. Most of us at times feel the need to play the One-Upmanship game especially if it’s been a bad week.

A truer story seems to me to challenge us to be more real. A truer story opens up the possibility of building depth into a friendship. A truer story brings vulnerability into the relationship which gives that relationship a chance to grow.

I was listening to a TED Talk from Brene’ Brown who noted that shame has become an epidemic for many Americans describing it as; “The most primitive human effector emotion we experience.” If I tell a friend a better story to elevate my status within the relationship, perhaps I am doing so in order to mask something I am ashamed of. If on the other hand, I see our friendship as a resource of life for both of us then perhaps I will have the courage to tell a truer story, one in which I am honest to share how I am struggling with a matter that has robbed me of being the real me. In his book How to Be Here, author Rob Bell says that; ‘Who you are not isn’t interesting.”

I hope you have in your life right now a friend whom you consider to be a resource of life. Experiment with vulnerability, see where it may lead, and how it might deepen not only the friendship but your own understanding of who you have been created to be.

There’s only one YOU! If you don’t play that role, the world loses your unique impact.



Welcome to my blog site! I am thankful you are here and hopeful you will find the content engaging. 

That word life says it all. I realize it is broad but if we place the adjective real ahead of the noun life it really can change the conversation. 

So, let’s try to do just that and let’s invite others to join in the discussion with us. 

You and me, we can make a difference, real life awaits!